The Gift of Negative Thinking

Have you had enough of your negative thinking? Trying too hard to be positive all the time? Well, this should give your mind a bit of relief. Relax…negative thinking is not all bad. With so much hoopla out there about thinking positive and how destructive negative thoughts can be, I wanted to shed some light on the subject. Here are some things I have learned about negative thinking that may surprise you:

It is natural for us to be negative. The constant thoughts that flow through your mind come from the subconscious. The subconscious mind’s primary goal is to move you from pain and towards pleasure. So, it focuses on the pain to fix it. When you wake up with a cold, your mind will pay attention to what’s wrong. You notice your stuffy breathing and your body’s aches because your subconscious naturally wants to move you back to pleasure again. When you wake up any other morning without a cold, you don’t even notice how good your body feels and how you can breathe easy. When things are going well, your mind sets it aside and focuses on what to adjust.

This is actually a good thing. You don’t want to ignore the signals that your body is telling you that it is out of alignment. The same with negative thinking, it is simply a signal that your life isn’t where you want it to be. It takes conscious effort and presence to appreciate the moment and the good in life. No quick trick is going to erase the negative and make you automatically positive all the time. Your mind just doesn’t work that way.

You can’t get rid of all your negative thinking. Yes, that’s right. No matter how many people claim their magic technique clears your negative thinking, it is simply impossible.  Trying to remove all pessimistic thinking is a losing battle. This approach only labels the thoughts as harmful which creates MORE negativity and repulsion. You live in a world of duality and you cannot have positive thoughts without the other. Do you only love yourself when you are upbeat and positive or when you are manifesting things you want? It is great to attract your desires but when you get down on yourself when you think negative, it is a trap that is hard to escape. You become attached the external results and not spiritually-free.

You can use the negative thinking to your advantage. Instead of trying to push it away which only makes it stronger, you can use the destructive emotions just as the martial artists use the “opponent force” in battle. Have compassion for the thought and see it as something that has no power.  The resistance makes it stronger, but going toward it with love makes it dissolve away.

You are not your thoughts. Whether you think positive or negative, your thoughts in your daily life come from your human experience. There is another, more powerful part of you without thought that is divine and perfect. By simply recognizing that thoughts are just thoughts, you can step back into the vantage point of your higher self and watch your mind do its thing without getting sucked into the drama.  The real goal is seeing yourself larger than your thoughts instead of the opposite.

Your thoughts have power. With all that said, your thoughts still have power. You are always thinking and it is a good idea to make sure your habitual thinking is in alignment with what you want. Self-hypnosis is a great resource that I call “training wheels for the mind” to support you in getting into the habit of thoughts that support you and your dreams. The caveat here is to not feel as though you have to think positive 100% of the time and get down on yourself when you have a pity party.

The most effective path is to generate unconditional love toward yourself and life’s circumstances. Don’t condition your life experience based on whether you are upbeat or down in the dumps.  You are a human being and a spiritual being. Love both parts of you and know both parts of you.  Your true self is greater than any negative thought so there is no need to fear the ideas manufactured by the human in you. In each moment you have the opportunity to step back and see the truth of who you really are and you are always amazing.

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Battling Negative Thinking by Watering the Rose

When you realize that your thoughts create your life, at first you may feel liberated and think, “That’s easy, I’ll just change my thoughts.” However, when you attempt to shift the mind from its old patterns, a great resistance presents itself within you and you begin an internal battle. Your pattern of thinking has been consistent for decades and you cannot just flip a switch and become super-positive and attract a car, a lover, a house or a job overnight. The process of transforming your habits of thinking takes some time and effort but the rewards are amazing.

Of course, the fastest and most effective way to shift your thinking is using self-hypnosis because it works with the subconscious mind (the roots of your thinking). When your mind is in a relaxed state of trance, it is open to new ideas and allows the deep mind to absorb positive messages. It takes 1,000 affirmations to match the power of one affirmation in a hypnotic state. Depending on the person, it could take 30-90 days of regular daily practice to make a permanent shift in the subconscious about a certain core belief. During that time, the battle on the conscious level begins and many misinterpret this as the hypnosis isn’t working. The reality is that the closer you are to change, the louder the opposing force of thought becomes. It is actually working exactly as it should and there are ways to help it along by being present with your thinking throughout the day.

I recently came up with a great metaphor that may help you as you shift your thinking. Imagine that you have two potted plants in front of you. One pot contains a large, overgrown weed that contains all of the thoughts, ideas, beliefs that are not supporting what you want. The weed represents thoughts that are disempowering, negative and hurtful. Then, in the other pot imagine a beautiful rose. That rose represents the part of you that loves you, believes in you and attracts wonderful people, success and creativity into your life. Your focus directs which pot you water. So if you focus on the negative thoughts, you are watering the weed and it will grow larger and become more powerful. If you stop yourself and focus on the good in you and life, you are watering the rose.

You water the rose each time you listen to a self-hypnosis program, every time you do something nice for yourself or others, every time you think of someone you love or loves you, and every time you say “no” and keep your boundaries. You may not notice a big change overnight, but eventually that rose will grow into a large beautiful rose bush with lots of buds and a wonderful fragrance. The weed , without attention, will wither away and become weak. The negative thinking will slow down to a quiet whisper. There is a tipping point when you automatically water the rose without having to train yourself and you will naturally feel more confident, loving and positive about your life.

When you feel good naturally, you will be in the flow. You seem to be the lucky one, attracting opportunities, loving people, money, success and all those bonuses that you want in life. Regardless of what shows up, you just feel better. Remember, you get what you focus on so keep watering the rose and you’ll start to sing, “everything’s coming up roses!” in your life.

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Hypnosis by Phone – How it works

I get so many questions asking me how I can hypnotize someone over the phone. People are perplexed at this concept of hypnosis by phone so I decided to record an audio explaining how it works and the myths of hypnosis. Since I don’t do anything to you, just guide you into the state with my relaxing voice, you and I don’t need to be in the same room. The process can be done via phone from anywhere in the world. Just click here to display the pop-up player where I explain it all in this 20 minute audio. If you have any questions or want to find out about my current rates, simply complete my contact form and I will get back to you within 24 hours.

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What to do about money anxiety?

Sure, you’ve heard personal growth experts talk about attracting money and success. You may have tried their techniques with limited results. The problem isn’t money but your attachment to money as the source of your happiness.

Not to sound cliche here, but money will not bring you more joy. I know, it would be nice to quit your job, retire at the beach and drive a fine car, but if you are not happy to begin with, you will still find it miserable. Nothing will ever be good enough and you will think MORE money is the answer.

The reason people block money from flowing to them is their fear of it. Fear of losing it, fear of not having it, fear of wasting it, etc. etc. The root problem is the anxiety you have about not having it and the temporary lift you get when it shows up. To break the cycle, you can work with the uncomfortable feeling around money that is caused when you balance your check book or the weight in your chest when the bills arrive in the mail. Once you transform that feeling, you will be cleared of your baggage and see money flow to you effortlessly.

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