After I healed that relationship and saw the real man behind the stern facade, something changed. He continued to have a big impact on my dating life because he showed me how loving and compassionate men can be even with their hard exterior. When I became aware of his gentler, loving side, I started being attracted to the nice guys which ultimately led me to the love of my life.

So, take a look deeper beyond the surface of the person you blame for your failed relationships and see if there is something more to them. By opening your mind to another possibility besides the old opinion you carried throughout your life, you may be surprised at what you discover about them. This relationship is the foundation of all others. What you see in them, you will see in all of your romantic partners. Isn’t it time to see something new?

What you need in times like this is your own stimulus package. Here are some tips to create more love in your life and feel abundant no matter what your social status.

1. Place a moratorium on complaining about being single.
Don’t whine to your friends and avoid mentioning to people how hard it is to be in your situation. Your subconscious is always listening to you and will reinforce those negative ideas, only making them stronger. Try to have a complain-free week and see the difference in your attitude.

2. Treat yourself to something fabulous.
Whether it be a pedicure, a massage or something free like a beautiful walk or drive to the beach, adding a little something extra just for you will lift your spirits and help you feel more in control of your own happiness.

3. Mirror Exercise
Look directly at yourself in the mirror and smile. Even if you have to force it, just be with your beautiful self for at least five minutes. Focus on all of your wonderful qualities. Do this every morning and you will be amazed at how great your day unfolds.

4.  Skip
Yes, skip. Even if you are in a busy city, skipping a little brings that playful side out in you. Imagine that as you skip you are kicking off all bad feelings and become lighter and lighter.

5.  Self-Hypnosis
You know I needed to include this one. Either listen to a pre-recorded cd or get into a relaxed state either first thing in the morning or at the end of the day and retrain your repetitive thoughts to ones that support your desires. Close your eyes and imagine being in the arms of your true love. Generate that love feeling every day to act as a “love magnet” drawing him/her into your life.

All these ideas have one basic ingredient – choice. You can choose to shift old behavior or stay in your existing patterns. You may discover some other stimulus activities that work for you but the important thing is that you do something different. Escaping the status quo will undoubtedly happen when you choose to new way of being.

There is a great love already inside of you just waiting to be awakened. When you access this incredible source of power, you become irresistible to the opposite sex. Go ahead, it is okay to shine.

If you feel as though you need to act different than you are, you are shutting your true self out and lowering your self-esteem. If you put on a mask, you are ashamed of what is underneath and, no matter how hot you look in that black cocktail dress or Armani suit, your self-hate will eventually be revealed.

Instead of changing, you can simply accept yourself unconditionally right now. By loving yourself even with your wrinkles, extra bumps and quirky ways, your confidence will naturally increase. Beneath the surface there is nothing but beauty and love…so why hide it?

Get out there and be your amazing self. There is someone out there looking for someone exactly like you.

2. Turn off your cell phone! You will be engaged
in many lively conversations for short periods of time. You don’t want
to be distracted by a ringing phone – it also makes a bad impression.

3. Smile! Be interested!

4.
Relax and have fun, no matter what. Be in the moment and be determined
to leave all expectations at the door and just enjoy yourself! Decide
before you get there to have a great time and you will have a great
time – guaranteed!

5. You will receive your results by private email so you can feel free to mark your scorecard without any reservations.

6.
Arrive and check in early to mingle and get in on the drink specials
before you begin speed dating. You will have time to relax before the
dating begins.

7. If you come with friends, don’t sit near one
another! You will be tempted to eavesdrop or engage in multiple
conversations at once, which would defeat the purpose.

8. Make sure to compliment everyone you meet by stating how nice it was to meet them!

9.
If you are unsure how to mark your scorecard for a particular
individual, mark them as a “yes” and keep the door open, you never know!

10.
Don’t take too many notes. Your eyes will be on your paper rather than
on your date and they will get the impression that you are not
interested even if you are. Mark down something unusual about a job or
comment that will jog your memory about them and then enjoy the
conversation.

11. Keep the conversation light! This is just an
introduction, not an entire date. Subjects to keep off limits include:
past relationships, frustrations or annoyances, traffic, weather, etc.
You might want to think up some conversational questions that you can
ask each date that are light and fun. (aka “If we could be sitting
anywhere in the world right now, where would you like to sit.

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However, you can increase your chances by increasing your confidence and subconscious thoughts directed at success in love. No matter what the statistics show, the women who have the right mind-set are the ones who will lift themselves out of the singles pool.

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There is nothing I can say to make you feel better except to honor
whatever emotion you are feeling. Allow yourself to feel sad,
frustrated or depressed as long as you don't stay there. As you
give yourself the opportunity to fully express those feelings
(journals are always great for this), they will quickly pass and
you can get back out there and date again. Letting go helps to
release the tension inside and allow love to flow into you life
more easily.

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