Stages of Relationships – Avoid Quick Fixes

Featuring Love Coach, Debra Berndt and special Guest Michelle Casto (brightlightcoaching.com)

Speed Dating Tips on Love Coach Show

Tune in to the Love Coach Show Today at 4:30pm when Love Coaches Debra Berndt and DeAnne Hirsch discuss tips for speed dating.  Come back here to listen to the replay or listen live every Wednesday at 4:30pm on Real Coaching Radio Network. Find out how to attract healthy dating relationships!

Dating A Divorced Man? Tune into the Hypnotic Dating Show this Wednesday!

Are you dating a divorced man? Tune in the Hypnotic Dating Show on Wednesday, August 6th at 5:30pm MST as host Debra Berndt (attractlovetoday.com) interviews special guest Adryenn Ashley, author of the new book “Every Single Girl’s Guide to Her Future Husband’s Last Divorce”  Find out the Five Critical Tips for getting involved with a divorced man before you tie the knot.

Visit http://www.realcoachingradio.com to gain access to the interactive chat room.  The Hypnotic Dating Show is sponsored by Great Expectations, when you’re serious about dating. Contact info@gedenver.com for a free dating consultation.

Dating Decisions – How do I know if he’s the one?

When we are looking for our soulmate, we often have high expectations for each online date we go on.  They are looking for love, you are looking for love – it has to be a match, right?  Well, the problem with online dating is there are two types of men – the ones that are sincerely looking for a relationship and the ones that are looking for someone to hang out with for sex.  Research shows that only 50% of people who date online are really looking for a relationship.

When I was dating, I found the guys that were looking for the relationship are the ones I wasn’t interested in.  I had a habit of being attracted to unavailable men.  The “nice guys” were everywhere and I was looking someplace else.  I consciously wanted a relationship but had an invisible pull toward the bad boys.

I tried to change the habit by giving the nice guys a chance.  I would find someone who, like me, was looking for a relationship.  We would start to date and I would scrutinize everything to see if he was really the one.  I didn’t want to invest too much time (I was nearing 40 at that point and time was of the essence to find my man).  I would vacilate back and forth and then have a really bad date with him.  It would start a downward spiral of finding more things annoying about him, every phone call felt like harrassment and I just wanted him to leave me alone.  I  ultimately broke it off and went into a deep depression, doubting whether I would ever find the right one for me.

The problem I had was that I had this image of my mind of what the relationship would be like.  I kept trying to put each person into my picture…but they never seemed to fit.  When I did find my true love, he didn’t fit ANYthing like I designed in my mind but he was SO MUCH MORE than I could ask for in a partner.  Each day I find that my heart opens so much more in gratitude for what I received.  I finally allowed the divine to show me what I needed instead of sending orders of lists of what I want.  So, how do you know if he’s the one?  He’ll be completely different than any other you dated in the past.  I don’t know what that is for you, but that is the clearest explanation I can give.

See my Attract the Love of Your Life program which helps you visualize how you want to FEEL in a relationship and allow the divine to bring it to you.  You will learn to recognize “the one” more easily when he arrives.

New Relationship with Someone Nice?

If you have been single for a while and are not used to being with someone who honors and cherishes you, you may have the new relationship jitters.  Many times when we are so accustomed to being attracted to the men that break our heart, our mind plays tricks on us when a Prince Charming shows up.  Each time you go on a date with Mr. Nice, you are finding flaws and reasons to bail out of the situation.  There may be an intense pressure in your chest of panic at the end of the evening when you are thinking about that good night kiss.  Rest assured, this may just be Mr. Wrong again because of lack of chemistry.  But…what if it was “HIM” and you pushed him away because of your own unhealed issues?  The subconscious likes to keep things the same.  So, if you are always used to being heartbroken, your inner mind may pull you back from someone who treats you nice just because it is a new feeling.  Since the subconscious does not have any logic to it and doesn’t like change, it just repeats old patterns even if they are outworn.

The best way to know the difference is to keep dating the nice guy to determine if it is your lack of self-love that is repelled by someone actually loving you or if he is just not for you.  Dating is a fun adventure if you look at each person as a mirror of your inner self.  The law of attraction will always magnetically draw to you the person that matches your subconscious programming.  Do you ever notice that you have instant chemistry with the womanizers or casanovas?  That is because your subconscious is used to heart break and feels safe around them because it is predictable.  Our conscious mind may not read the “Mr. Wrong” sign on his forehead, but your subsconsious does.  Pay attention to the patterns of men you are attracting and discover your inner most thoughts and beliefs.  My visualization, self-hypnosis program on “Accepting Love in a New Relationship” is great to overcome those old dysfunctional patterns and really allow the love in that you deserve.