Gain Dating Confidence with Hypnosis

See WB2 News piece on Debra Berndt’s Dating Confidence HypnoDating program with testimonial from successful client.

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Hypnotic Coaching – An alternative to therapy

Sick of long-drawn out therapy and need a quick shift. Hypnotic-Coaching is a combination of life coaching with the power of hypnosis. This new way of taking control of your mind and your life can help you lose weight, attract love, increase wealth and even find a job.  Debra offers Express Coaching packages with no long-term contracts (because you won’t need it).

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What Stops You From Being Your Best?

Everyone has unlimited potential, but they seem to hold themselves back from their greatness. They get distracted, talk themselves out of their dreams as if they were unattainable anyway and ultimately feel unsatisfied. It is a tragic cycle of dreaming, getting disappointed and giving up. Most of the time, people stay stuck in the giving up and resort to complaining about their life, their body or their romantic situation instead of doing anything to change it. So, what stops you from being your best?

The subconscious likes to keep consistent patterns and resists change because it is afraid of the unknown. That is why people avoid starting new things because they are scary. Ancient survival instincts kick in, and the mind chatter finds a way to talk you out of anything different than the status quo. Certain people may have also been conditioned against change if they needed to keep a sense of order and predictability to survive in an abusive household. Some have had devastating failures that keep them from trying again. Everyone has something that holds them back whether it is fear of change or failure. They key is to find out what stops you, so you can overcome the barriers and create the life you truly desire.

First, think of a time when you had a big dream and gave up. Journal about the conditions of that place in your life, and describe how you felt about it. What story were you telling yourself about why you should stop pursuing the dream? Was it because you did not feel qualified (not good enough), or because you felt that there was a lack of support either financially or emotionally from those around you? Now looking back, review the idea and ask yourself if you absolutely believed that was true or was it just a story you told yourself.

People make up stories and rationalize about why they can’t lose weight, find a man or be successful because they have an unconscious desire to stay in their comfort zone. Let’s face it, a little work is required to accomplish anything extraordinary. The reason most people do not succeed is because they are too lazy to be pushed out, stretched and tested to gain something more in life. In order to put ourselves in a position of being “uncomfortable,” we need a good reason, or to become so uncomfortable in our current environment to push ourselves to make a change.

Now think of your big dream. Does it make you feel excited or scared? Could you live your life knowing that you never reached that dream? What stops you from taking action? Write down a list of all the justifications and reasons why you have not taken the steps required to pursue your goal. Then, write down all the reasons you should pursue the dream. To get motivated, your reasons to move forward must be stronger than the rationale to stay put. Self-hypnosis is also a great way to reprogram the subconscious mind to support the positive reasons for change.

Wallace Wattles, the author of “The Science of Getting Rich” (the book that Rhonda Byrne read to inspire her to do the movie, The Secret), says you are either thinking with your limited mind or the creative mind. Each time you give up and say it can’t be done, you are operating with your limited mind. When you open your mind up to all possibilities, you start using the creative mind. The creative mind is where miracles happen.

Here’s how to start that process. Look at your list of reasons that you cannot reach your goal again. Analyze it very carefully and come up with creative ideas that can override those excuses. For example, if one of your justifications is that you do not have the money, think of all the creative ways that you can attract the money you need (even if you think they are impossible). Just writing down how you can overcome those obstacles can attract new opportunities to you according to the law of attraction. This process helps you state intentions to what you want to draw into your life and you will be amazed at how easily things manifest for you.

Do not look at your life only through your current circumstances. Be open to the unseen forces that are working to bring you new resources. The reason most people give up is because they only notice what is, instead of what could be. If everyone thought that way, we would never have learned how to walk, discover a new world or get to the moon. The only thing that is stopping you from being your greatest self is you.

Finding Your True Self

You may be familiar with the critical voice in your mind that tells you that you are not good enough, there is not enough money, or how you are a failure. Being so familiar with the voice or negative mind chatter, you actually believe what you are telling yourself. These consistent thoughts are simply an old habit and have no real substance to them. Unfortunately, they have tremendous power in creating your life experience. In order to change your life, you must change your habit of thinking.

Deep within your mind is a voice that is friendly, kind, reassuring and compassionate. That warm, wonderful part of you is your true self. Even if you hear the voice rarely, she or he is still there struggling to be heard. Allow yourself to open up to the kind voice that is encouraging and supportive and start believing her or him. By focusing on the positive flow of thought through your mind, you make it stronger and more powerful. Soon the thoughts of love and self-assurance will become a stronger habit and the negative voice will become quieter and even non-existent.

An easy way to retain your mind is by using self-hypnosis. Hypnosis is a simple relaxation of the mind to allow new ideas to flow deep into your subconscious, the source of all of your thoughts and beliefs. Eighty-percent of your thoughts are the same everyday and you need to find a way to redirect the flow so that you can steer your mind in the direction of love and acceptance. Like an old shoe, your negative thoughts can be more comfortable than new, supportive ideas. After a few weeks of daily self-hypnosis, you will notice a change in the way you think and act, especially in your dating life. Your real wonderful self will start to emerge. Hypnosis is not a magic wand but a tool that you can use to retrain your thinking. The trance state allows the critical voice to relax so that the voice of your true being can flourish. Hypnosis is more powerful than simple affirmations.

To make a shift your subconscious mind, it takes one thousand affirmations to equal one suggestion in the trance state. Less work, faster results, why not give it a shot? By allowing the old, worn out ideas dissolve away, you can bring forth your amazing, unlimited self to play in the world. Accessing your true self enables you to stand in your magnificence and project that image out to others. You will soon find that the relationships and opportunities you attract will be healthier and your entire state of mind will become more peaceful. You do not have to change anything about yourself except where you direct your mind. Focus on who you really are and let your light shine.