Hypnosis For Holiday Stress

Learn how hypnosis can help ease stress any time of the year, especially during the hectic holiday season.  See ABC news interview with Debra Berndt, Clinical Hypnotherapist and Relationship Expert in Denver and New York.

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Hypnosis for Stress & Weight Loss

Watch Debra’s ABC News Interview on  Stress and Weight Loss and how hypnosis can help both areas. Debra is a Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist and Relationship Expert and is a regular guest on ABC News Denver.

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Hypnotic Coaching – An alternative to therapy

Sick of long-drawn out therapy and need a quick shift. Hypnotic-Coaching is a combination of life coaching with the power of hypnosis. This new way of taking control of your mind and your life can help you lose weight, attract love, increase wealth and even find a job.  Debra offers Express Coaching packages with no long-term contracts (because you won’t need it).

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Live Hypnosis Sample Video

Check out Debra Berndt’s Hypnotic Sample Session at the Spread the Love in NYC event in March, 2009. Take your mind on vacation and relax and enjoy a simple technique to bring your awareness to joy and love.

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Embracing Uncertainty

It is springtime in the Rockies. One day we are enjoying the warmth of Spring, and then a snowstorm hits the following afternoon. In Colorado, we never really know when it is time to put those parkas away. We get used to the dips and peaks of the thermometer, and the weather does not typically affect our daily routine. Wouldn’t it be nice to look at the ups and downs in our life the same way Coloradoans look at the weather? What if we could be comfortable with uncertainty?

For the most part, humans do not like surprises. Sure, they can be wonderful when they come in the form of a birthday party, a last-minute getaway, a proposal, or a visit from an old friend. The surprises that most of us dread are those unexpected bills, a last-minute mandate from the boss on a Friday afternoon, or the car breaking down. Worse yet, they can come in the form of someone leaving or even dying. Usually when unpleasant things happen, we are forced to face the impermanence of life. No matter what we do to prevent the “bad” stuff from happening, it cannot be avoided.

To keep from noticing the changes occurring all around them, people hold on to their possessions, their relationships or their title at work as some semblance of solid ground. Looking for something permanent to grasp onto as time flows by can leave many people feeling lost and alone and scared. Survival instincts kick in and they search for a sense of security somewhere out in the world. Most do not want to face the inevitability of change.

No matter how much we resist, life never stops moving. We are aging from the moment we are born. Moments quickly move past us and become memories before we stop to enjoy them. Although we try to ignore this, deep inside we know the truth – everything is temporary. Seasons change, jobs end, relationships breakup, and people get sick and die. The realities of life are hard to look at, but we would have more inner peace if we could allow ourselves to accept the ebb and flow instead of deny it.

Imagine looking at anything that comes your way as welcomed. Yes, even the dreadful things you do not want to face can be allowed to be experienced with ease. It is your resistance to change that causes the pain in your life, not the actual event. Sadness, sickness, joy and pleasures are all just a string of moments tied together to create your life. When you start labeling each moment as good or bad, you grasp at the pleasure and resist the pain. You can then get stuck in a cycle of what you resist persists. The pain lingers more and the pleasure seems to slip by us all too quickly – you get the reverse effect.

Allow me to share a personal story. A few years ago, I broke an engagement, had to sell the condo we lived in, and got laid off from my job all in the same month. Most of the “important things” that make people feel safe were stripped away from me. The only thing I had left was the moment and my spirit. I began to rebuild my life again from the bottom up. Over the next year, I left the corporate world forever with little savings and no one to support me financially. I moved to New Mexico where I received my hypnotherapy certification. I started my own business back in Denver and moved into a basement apartment to cut back on expenses. It was a scary time for me. I also did a lot of personal work to heal past wounds so that I could attract a loving relationship. I did not know how things would work out, but felt I had nothing more to lose. An amazing sense of strength in adversity was present in me that I never knew I had.

Six years later, I now have a completely different life. I am blessed with a wonderful, loving relationship, a successful practice doing what I love and a great lifestyle. I realized that I may have not been able to make the changes I did without something dramatic because I was too comfortable in my previous mediocre life. After losing what I thought was “everything” back then, I now no longer fear any loss. I accept the challenges life brings as an opportunity to stretch myself even further. I find it interesting that my trials always seem to surface when I start to get “comfortable” again.

The next time an unexpected event occurs in your life, welcome it with open arms. This may take practice, so you may want to start with something small like an unexpected bill. Imagine just being peaceful in the moment with the unplanned expense and surrendering to the situation. You will find that the money to pay the bill will show up and your anxious thoughts of being in the poor house was simply an exaggeration. Cherish every moment regardless of your external circumstances, and trust in the ever-flowing abundance that is always around you.

Allow changes to come and go as your become open to life’s ups and downs. You cannot change the flow, but you can experience it anyway you decide. Invite uncertainty, embrace change and never have another dull moment for the rest of your life.

Letting Go

Whether you are searching for the love of your life, on a mission to lose weight, or just trying to get your business off the ground, there may be a time when things are not moving forward. When feeling stuck, you may start to give attention to what is not happening and what is wrong. Focusing on your current state of affairs only creates more of the same experience. This behavior is counterproductive and only keeps you immobilized in the status quo. The subconscious desire increases to grasping and feelings of desperation and the last thing you may want to do is surrender to the situation and let go.

I remember when I was single and wanted to meet someone special. I was obsessed with improving myself, devouring every self-help book on relationships and throwing myself in any workshop I could find. This behavior led me to being very hard on myself when a relationship failed or was heartbroken by yet another womanizer. I felt like I should have known better after all the personal growth work I’ve done. I never gave myself a break, and the last thing I wanted to do was to give up and surrender to being single the rest of my life. My thoughts were saturated each day with my unhappy single status and nothing seemed to change.

The more I held on to the pressure of meeting Mr. Right, the more anxious I got. I was trying too hard. The same thing happened when I was building my business. The more I focused on the lack of new clients coming in the door, the less my phone rang. I struggled with my weight in my 20’s until I got distracted with my busy corporate job and the weight came right off. The times that I chose to surrender and let go were the times when everything automatically shifted in the direction that I desired.

A person I know works for a famous author. She told me that he was in a meeting describing to his staff the idea of letting go and allowing. He said to accept everything in your life as if it weren’t going to change and find peace in the here and now. As he was explaining this concept, his secretary came to interrupt the meeting and tell him that Oprah’s assistant was on the phone. He had recently been struggling with increasing his business and wealth and finally came to terms that if nothing changed in his life, he would still be fine. He loved everything he had in that moment, let go and then he was able to receive more.

In the dating world, when you let go and relax you become more attractive. Imagine if everything you wanted in your life was attracted to you when you just relaxed? Sounds too easy, but sometimes the simplest approach is the most powerful one. That is why your business has its ups and downs. The high times compound upon each other to create more abundance. When a doubt enters your mind things may come crashing down again. You pick yourself up and eventually the flow begins to return. There are natural ebbs and flows of life, but most of the bell curves are directed by your state of mind.

Being in gratitude, accepting the gifts that you have in your life right now helps you to stay in the moment and let go. Practicing this daily will not only lift your spirits but you become an abundance magnet. Whether you want the love of your life, to lose weight or increase your business, stand on the edge of unlimited possibility and just let go. Instead of trying to reach out and grasp for things in desperation, relax and allow the goodness to flow to you.

If you need help letting go of the stress in your life, check out my new Feel Good – Release Anxiety self-hypnosis program on CD or get the mp3 download. It is a 20-minute deep relaxation that helps you let go of all tension in your mind and body, leaving you feeling extremely peaceful and very attractive.

How to Stop Fear From Running Your Life

In these trying times, many are concerned about their jobs, investments and the future of our great country. According to the law of attraction, what you think about you create more of in life. Listening to the news and talking with friends and co-workers, your mind is constantly flooded with negative ideas, impending doom and the supposed sad reality of the current state of affairs. The subconscious mind is conditioned to react in these circumstances not out of faith but out of fear. To stop fear from running your life, you must become more conscious of your thoughts and where they are leading you.

If you allow fear to run your life, you can be pulled into darkness of your deepest anxieties and ultimately make unclear decisions. The fear will drive you to seek solace in money, food, mind-altering substances and other things of the world that can never bring you the salvation you desire. You will always be left wanting more, never satisfied and ultimately defeated. When you get to that point you may give up, become sour on life and disconnect from your spiritual practice. Fear has won.

You see, the fear was created because of your attachment to these worldly things. When doctors tell you that it is all in your head, they are right. Wanting things to be a certain way and in perfect order creates the upsets in your life when the opposite shows up. If you relied on money in the bank to feel secure, you are the one who creates the fear of lack when your 401K shrinks in half. Believing that one special person will make you happy creates the sadness when you are alone. You are in charge of your inner peace, and by letting go of the need for external situations to be different you can find serenity right now.

You may argue that you need a house and a job and food, how can you let go of the need for the things that sustain you and your family? I am not saying that you should not want a nice home, good income, health and family, my point is that just worrying about it doesn’t change anything. Your thoughts create the panic about the situation which leads to more experiences that reflect those thoughts. When you let fear run your life, you ultimately draw more circumstances to you that mirror those fears. You can take action to improve your situation, and best results come when you hold your mind in the highest vibration of thought to attract what you desire. By doing this you can not only shift your destiny but attain a great feeling of inner peace during any conflict in your life. When your mind is calm and hopeful, your brilliance shines through and inspiration flows.

Challenges are a part of being human. Instead of looking at your situation as broken, see your circumstances as what you have to work with in this precious life. When you give up the idea that things are going to be ideal one day, you can relax in the uncomfortable times that every human faces. True bliss is surrendering to the moment. Knowing that everything that you identify as good or bad is temporary, you understand that this too will pass. I am not saying to just throw you hands up and let your whole life go to pieces, but use every obstacle as an opportunity to become stronger…fearless.

Think about a horror movie. At the beginning, they only show you the monster’s tail or shadow and it seems to be very frightening. Toward the end of the movie, after a dozen scenes of the monster in full view, you become desensitized and the creature seems less powerful. Just like any of our fears, when we just get a glimpse of a situation without examination, it can rule us. When you feel anxiety, ask yourself, “Why am I afraid of?” or “What belief do I have that created this fear?” Once you identity the true root of your panic, smile at your fearful thoughts directly and stop allowing them to control you. By giving light to the circumstance and understanding that the source of your pain is based on a false idea in your mind rather than the actual event, you can become the master of your life.

Dating Yourself

To alleviate nervousness before a first date, it may help to consider that everything you experience is inside of you. You get to determine what everything means. If you go into the date feeling good about yourself, you will interpret the things he says and does as positive. If you feel insecure, your mind will be looking for evidence of why he is not interested. Either way, you can control your experience just by controlling your state of mind.

Before you go on your date, think of three adjectives that you want to project. For example, you can say “I’m going to be fun, intelligent and sincere.” State that to yourself right before the date and you will automatically exhibit those qualities. You get to decide how your date unfolds instead of leaving it up to fate.

If you want to release anxiety before a date, check out my self improvement hypnosis cds including my new one “Feel Good – Release Anxiety” available online at Debra’s Guaranteed Hypnosis  Online Store.