Law of Attraction Anxiety: What is the Real Secret?

Many people have seen the DVDs, read the books, attended the seminars to attract romance, wealth and more, but still are not getting results. In the areas of money and love, so many have tied their hopes and dreams of finding that magic ticket to become a millionaire or meet the love of their life. The problem is not that the law of attraction does not work, but most people attempt to create from fear. Sadly, many self-help experts thrive on that fear to sell their products that feed the addiction of external gratification. This process is ineffective and will keep you buying more products that do not work if built on the foundation of perceived lack.

Thinking that more money or having a mate will make you happy leads you down a path of unfulfilled expectations. In addition, being hard on yourself for not being successful, judging your current circumstances as wrong and believing that something is wrong with you that needs to be fixed will keep you stuck. What you resist will persist and the anxiety you feel about not having those things will be a persistent until you let it go. Your subconscious mind perceives the feeling of lack and continues to give you that experience until you change your energy.

I am not taking about giving up on your dreams but acknowledging that there is nothing that can change in your external environment that will ever make you happier than you can be right now. Happiness is a choice and is solely based on your own perception. Even in times of complete devastation, you are free to interpret your circumstances. You are the one who decides what everything means.

When I was single, I had so much anxiety about my love life. I wondered when my time would come when my true love would find me and whisk me away from that awful singles world. After I met my boyfriend, who is absolutely incredible, I knew that I was still me and life was not all that different.

Years later, I left my thriving practice in Denver and moved to New York City. I had to start my business over again, money was tight and it took a while to generate momentum. In the first few months, I meditated everyday to help ease my financial stress. One day, as I sat there unable to face my anxiety any longer, a thought came to my head that shifted the tension forever. “Don’t you remember when you used to worry like this over finding a man?” There it was…life’s never-ending pursuit of something to get better…right in my face.

I realized that no matter what you seem to get in life, there will be always more that you need if you are dependent upon external forces to bring you happiness. Feeling as if the power is outside of you, it is no wonder that you would feel small and fearful. The anxiety that is created by lack of money or love must be addressed in order to be fully at peace. If not, you will be clinging on to any money that comes in or the first man that arrives, remaining in a state of uncertainty and turmoil throughout your life.

You see, what you really want is to feel good, not money or love. You are tricked to believe that joy comes in a nice fat check or the sexiest man or woman alive. A sense of happiness can be realized within you right now and supersedes any attachment to results that previously kept you in a state of panic. Working with the felt sense in your body and using visualization to release the tension is a powerful tool in discovering your own inner peace.

Self-hypnosis is the perfect technique to alleviate panic because it not only brings you to a state of extraordinary relaxation, but works with the subconscious gunk that caused the discomfort in the first place.

Once the anxiety is cleared and you have peace of mind, you can freely attract any of those external bonuses whenever you want. When they arrive, you will be amazed at how little they add to your sense of joy since you already found greater elation inside. Once you discover your own well of joy that is abundant within you, you will never feel lack again.

There is a myth that life gets better. This moment is all you have. Stop wasting it on thinking about what you don’t have and be grateful for this precious human life that is right here, right now before it goes away.

Check out my free teleseminar on Money Anxiety Freedom!

How Hypnosis Works – Life Coach TV Interview

Check out my interview on Life Coach TV in NYC. It is 30 minutes in length and separated into three sections for size consideration. Here I explain to Laurie Lawson of the International Coaches Federation – NYC Chapter Vice President the benefits of hypnosis and how it can help coaches get faster results for their clients. Learn the myths of hypnosis, the power of the subconscious mind and what stops you from reaching your goals. How hypnosis can help you shift your life in a new direction.

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Attract Love of Your Life with Hypnosis Interview

Love Coach and Hypnotist, Debra Berndt explains how the subconscious mind affects your dating life. Use her attract love visualization hypnosis programs to shift your attraction magnet to meet true love.
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Attracting The One with Hypnosis

Find out how you can attract the one by using a little self-hypnosis. Clinical Hypnotherapist and Relationship Expert, Debra Berndt explains how your subconscious mind can be a powerful tool in changing your dating destiny. See her interview below on ABC News in Denver:

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Hypnosis for Dating Confidence

ABC News interview on Valentine’s Day 2006 with Hypnotherapist Debra Berndt who discusses how anyone can use hypnosis to attract true love. She dispels the myths of hypnosis and how she used this powerful technique to attract her man.

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Are you in a love recession?

While others complain of their shrinking paychecks, you may be worried about the diminishing dating pool. Are you in a love recession?

What you need in times like this is your own stimulus package. Here are some tips to create more love in your life and feel abundant no matter what your social status.

1. Place a moratorium on complaining about being single.
Don’t whine to your friends and avoid mentioning to people how hard it is to be in your situation. Your subconscious is always listening to you and will reinforce those negative ideas, only making them stronger. Try to have a complain-free week and see the difference in your attitude.

2. Treat yourself to something fabulous.
Whether it be a pedicure, a massage or something free like a beautiful walk or drive to the beach, adding a little something extra just for you will lift your spirits and help you feel more in control of your own happiness.

3. Mirror Exercise
Look directly at yourself in the mirror and smile. Even if you have to force it, just be with your beautiful self for at least five minutes. Focus on all of your wonderful qualities. Do this every morning and you will be amazed at how great your day unfolds.

4.  Skip
Yes, skip. Even if you are in a busy city, skipping a little brings that playful side out in you. Imagine that as you skip you are kicking off all bad feelings and become lighter and lighter.

5.  Self-Hypnosis
You know I needed to include this one. Either listen to a pre-recorded cd or get into a relaxed state either first thing in the morning or at the end of the day and retrain your repetitive thoughts to ones that support your desires. Close your eyes and imagine being in the arms of your true love. Generate that love feeling every day to act as a “love magnet” drawing him/her into your life.

All these ideas have one basic ingredient – choice. You can choose to shift old behavior or stay in your existing patterns. You may discover some other stimulus activities that work for you but the important thing is that you do something different. Escaping the status quo will undoubtedly happen when you choose to new way of being.

There is a great love already inside of you just waiting to be awakened. When you access this incredible source of power, you become irresistible to the opposite sex. Go ahead, it is okay to shine.

Do You Deserve A Dating Oscar?

Celebrities get awards for their great acting, but do you think you deserve an Oscar for one of your dating performances? Many dating experts will give the advice that you should ACT confident and do all the right things to get to the second date. Following this approach you may end up acting your way into a relationship that is based on false pretenses. At one point you will have to face your mate as your real self, and then what?

If you feel as though you need to act different than you are, you are shutting your true self out and lowering your self-esteem. If you put on a mask, you are ashamed of what is underneath and, no matter how hot you look in that black cocktail dress or Armani suit, your self-hate will eventually be revealed.

Instead of changing, you can simply accept yourself unconditionally right now. By loving yourself even with your wrinkles, extra bumps and quirky ways, your confidence will naturally increase. Beneath the surface there is nothing but beauty and love…so why hide it?

Get out there and be your amazing self. There is someone out there looking for someone exactly like you.

Meditation to Reduce Stress

Need love, money or better health? Using meditation along with hypnosis can help you get your mind aligned in the present moment and experience more inner peace. Check out NY Love Coach, Debra Berndt’s interview on ABC News in Denver.

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Afternoon to Spread the Love in NYC

Sunday, March 1, 2009 – 2-5pm

An afternoon to spread more love in the world and learn to love your own body. Enjoy delicious organic food, a cooking demonstration, great music, wonderful discussion on topics such as whether organic food has the power to heal, entertainment and other wonderful surprises through a silent auction to benefit the New York Association of Naturopathic Physicians and the New York Coalition for Natural Living a start up organization dedicated to bringing more healthy resources to New York City.

Suggested admission $15. We are raising money to start an organization to continue to spread love through the community and educate people about the importance of consuming organic food and taking care of their bodies.  This is a grass roots organization and is not yet a non-profit. If you can give more than $15 we would appreciate and if you can’t quite give $15 we understand as well and welcome any contribution you can make to cover food and event costs as well as hopefully raise a bit to further the vision of this organization.

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Stages of Relationships – Avoid Quick Fixes

Featuring Love Coach, Debra Berndt and special Guest Michelle Casto (brightlightcoaching.com)

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